Trying to get Pregnant but …….. please help!?
ok! I know the chances of becoming pregnant decrease as you get older – but I am only 27 – my partner is 31 – I have been pregnant before when I was 21 and had a termination – so I know I am able to conceive, my partner has a child from a previous relationship so we know he can conceive too (although how long it took his ex to conceive is unknown to me) I have now been off the pill for a year – although we are not actively “trying” we are just letting nature take its course – we do have sex regularly and I know (well did know!!) when my most fertile days are. but no sign of a baby yet. my periods WERE great and on time but have now decided to come 5 weeks or 6 weeks or 3 weeks or 2 weeks apart over the last 3 months – they have been random!! I have had an operation to remove CIN III cancerous cells in October. Am I doing something wrong?? should I actually TRY for a baby instead of just letting nature take its own time??
Pregnancy Advisor’s answers:
Honey you are not old. I am 27 as well and i have one kid so far (he is 5) and i am planning on (maybe) having another baby in a year or two.
My mom had my little brother at age 38 with no problems.
It took me a year to get pregnant with my son and i was also 21 when i had him. I became pregnant last year but miscarried.
If you are wanting a baby then start trying!!
How to get Pregnant Faster – Top Ten Tips
1. Have sex three times a week.
Having regular sex is the best way to get pregnant. Couples often try to time everything perfectly for ovulation but do not have sex when they think they are not ovulating. It is true that sex that is not within the time of ovulation will not result in pregnancy. However, because women do not always ovulate when they think they will, having sex three times a week will help to a woman cover her bases, so to speak, and not miss an opportunity to get pregnant.
2. Use an ovulation prediction kit or fertility monitor.
Using an ovulation kit to predict when you are ovulating will improve your chances of getting pregnant. For many women charting or other methods of ovulation prediction are too confusing. Ovulation prediction kits work by reading LH surges prior to ovulation. They are relatively easy to use and are generally accurate for predicting ovulation. Fertility monitors, such as the Clear Blue Easy monitor, are also a worthwhile investment if you would like to get pregnant faster. Fertility monitors are similar to ovulation prediction kits in that they read changes in LH but they also read changes in other hormones and don’t require any guesswork for couples. They are easy to use and will tell you when the best time to get pregnant is.
3. Have sex before ovulation (not after).
Sometimes couples get confused about the best time to have sex in relationship to ovulation. You have a small window of time each month to get pregnant. After a woman ovulates the egg will survive approximately 24 hours. Sperm, on the other hand, will live for up to three to five days. This is why having sex two to three days before ovulation will increase your chances of getting pregnant. Don’t wait until the day you ovulate to have sex. Your partner’s sperm will last longer than your egg and you don’t want to miss an opportunity by waiting.
4. Don’t rely on the Calendar method for predicting ovulation.
A lot of couples have heard to have sex around day fourteen of your cycle. This is based on the calendar method and assumes that you have a regular 28-day cycle and ovulate mid-cycle. Although this is better than just picking an arbitrary day to have sex, it is not a very accurate way to predict when you ovulate. Many women do not ovulate on day fourteen and knowing precisely when you ovulate will help you time intercourse better. Ovulation prediction kits, looking at previous months bbt charts, or watching for body cues will help you to determine when you ovulate.
5. Charting may not be the best way to predict ovulation.
Charting is great for tracking your cycle but it does have disadvantages. By the time you can see ovulation on a bbt chart, you have already ovulated. It is good to chart so you can track your cycles, see if you ovulate the same time each month, and also so you can look back on your cycle and see if you timed things right. But if this is your first cycle trying to get pregnant or if you are not ovulating at the same time each month, an ovulation prediction kit would be more helpful.
6. See a doctor before you start trying to get pregnant.
Make sure you are in good health and have had a regular check up from your OBGYN or medical provider. Untreated infections, sexually transmitted diseases, or poor health can affect your chances of getting pregnant. Its good to see a doctor as well as start taking prenatal vitamins prior to trying to conceive.
7. Don’t smoke, drink alcohol, or abuse drugs when trying to get pregnant.
This may seem like common sense but many women do try to get pregnant while smoking, drinking or using drugs. Smoking, drugs, and alcohol can affect your fertility. It will also affect your unborn child. It is important to stop smoking or using drugs and alcohol before getting pregnant and not wait until you find out you are pregnant.
8. Have enjoyable sex.
Sometimes when couples are trying to conceive, sex becomes a job or function of reproduction and is not as enjoyable. Plan a romantic evening or try something different to spice things up. How you are feeling sexually may factor into your chances of getting pregnant. Some researchers believe that having an orgasm during sex increases your chances of getting pregnant. For women, the spasmic movements of orgasm will help pull the sperm into the uterus and for men a better orgasm may increase the man’s sperm count.
9. Have sex in positions that keep sperm inside the vagina longer.
The missionary position is a good position to use when trying to get pregnant. Avoid positions where the woman is on top. Gravity will allow sperm to leak out with these positions. Also try placing a pillow under your hips to help tilt your pelvis and keep the sperm in longer. Don’t get up right after sex. Try to relax and allow the sperm to stay in the vagina as long as possible.
10. There is no such thing as trying too hard to get pregnant.
Most couples get pregnant within a year of trying. If you have not gotten pregnant within a year consult your doctor for advice.
Do you think i’m pregnant?
I had my period December 10th until the 15th. I had unprotected sex on the 17th and he came in me. I usually get my period every 30 day’s but it’s been a but late and such but yeah i normally get it every 28-30 days. I used an online ovulation predictor and it said the 19th and 20th i’m a little fertile, 21 & 22 very fertile. But who know’s if that’s right? Sperm can live up to 7 day’s in a woman. I had some cramps so i was wondering if they were implantion cramps? I’m going to take a pregnancy test January 11th if i don’t get my period by then but i was wondering what you guy’s think my chances are of getting pregnant? Thanks.
Oh and here’s the Ovulation Predictor i used so you know what i’m talking about when it said i was fertile and stuff if you type in when i got my period and everything, you can use it too haha. (:
Pregnancy Advisor’s answers:
Ovulation predictor kits are reliable. They wouldn’t come up positive if you didnt have an LH surge going on indicating impending or happening ovulation.
And actually, sperm can only live up to 72 hours, not 7 days.
And they only live that long if conditions are right, ie: eggwhite cervical mucus, warmer temps..etc
stop relying on info from the internet and talk to a real doctor.
I’d say its damn near impossible you’re pregnant.
Why can’t I get pregnant?
My Fiance and I have been trying for 9 months to get pregnant and nothing has happened. We know for sure its not him, he has a daughter. I have periods regulary, and we have sex pretty much every day. I was on depo for about 3 yrs but that was over 3-4 yrs ago. I thought it could possibly be because im overweight. I’m 5’3 and 251. Is this the reason i haven’t been able to concieve yet? Thanks.
Pregnancy Advisor’s answers:
Being overweight doesn’t usually interfere with fertility. If anything, being overweight can be a sign of PCOS, a condition that affects fertility, that causes weight gain (especially around the stomach).
If you’re getting periods every month, that’s a good sign. However, you should know that getting a period every month does not mean you ovulate every month. If you don’t ovulate, you won’t get pregnant.
What I suggest is that you get an ovulation predictor kit and use it for one cycle. This will accomplish two things…1) confirm that you are ovulating on your own and 2) confirm you are having sex during ovulation. Maybe using an OPK will better increase your chances. Be sure to follow the instructions carefully so you don’t miss your LH surge. If you test and never get a positive, that could be a clue you’re not ovulating.
The other thing I want to mention is your depo shot. Some women have a hard time recovering from being on depo. I know it’s been 3 years, but it’s taken some women longer than that. This is another possibility and worth mentioning to your doctor if/when you go in to discuss pregnancy.
Overall… The average couple can take up to 1 year to conceive. At 9 months, you’re still in the norm. I would try the ovulation predictor kits for the next few months and see if they help. If, by month 12, nothing is happening go see a fertility specialist for a consultation. More than likely, though…it’s not your weight, unless your weight is caused by PCOS.
Need help getting pregnant…:(?
my last period was march 31 2008, and are usually around 40 days…so my next 1 is coming on May 10 2008, I am trying really hard to conceive and had sex on april 25 th, what are my chances…I know that my cycle is longer than some, but it’s always the same cycle, I got checked by my doc, and she said I was fine…
I think that I started to ovulate around the 15th of april, thats when the sticky discharge started ???
I am so depressed, because I have been trying for a long time, and I am almost 30, just wish I could have a child…:(
Pregnancy Advisor’s answers:
It’s confusing to try and “guess” when you’ll ovulate. You have a few choices — have sex every other day for your cycle starting soon after your period end (you may be ovulating sooner or more likely, later than most) and keep with it to the end of your cycle. Orrrrr….pick up an OPK (ovulation predictor kit) at the drug store. It will tell you when it senses a surge in your LH level, which indicates when you are ovulating. ALso, sperm can live up to 3 days in the egg-white discharge, so don’t despair (it could be the sperm count is low, too…).
Do you still ovulate once you are pregnant?
My periods are irregular but I DO know that I ovulate each month. We are TCC and on our 3rd month of trying. I take my ovulation tests and ovulate quite early in my cycle – around day 7 (tests show positive on days 5 & 6). If my ovulation tests have been showing negative could I be pregnant? In other words do you still release LH hormone, have an LH surge and/or ovulate once you become pregnant? I am also worried that because I ovulate so early that if the egg is fertilized it will miscarry because there is not enough lining built up yet for it to attach to? Sorry if these are dumb questions, we just started trying. Everyone on here has been SOOO helpful so far – thanks a million – you guys ROCK!
Also… once the egg is fertilized in it harmful to have sex while it is implanting? My fiancee goes pretty deep and he hits my cervix opening which worries me that it will affect the fertilization of the egg?
Pregnancy Advisor’s answers:
To answer your additional question first; no it won’t harm anything. The cervix is a barrier before you get to the uterus, so it won’t have any impact on implantation.
I also ovulate early (CD9) and apparently it’s actually very healthy and can be an indicator of good eggs. It also means that you’ll have 16 chances each year to get pregnant compared to most women who have longer cycles and therefore fewer of them each year! Unless the time from ovulation to AF is less than 10 days, there’s nothing to worry about. So if you’re ovulating on CD7 and your cycle is more than 17 days long, you’re fine!
But there’s an important thing that you need to know about OPKs. They can detect pregnancy! They react to hCG in the same way that they react to LH, so if you’re getting a negative OPK you can be sure that you’re not pregnant. My guess is that ovulation is going to be late this month and that your cycle will therefore also be longer.
BTW: there’s no such things as a dumb question on the TTC forum. Anything that’s worrying you is fair game
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